Trying to Cross the Adhd Desert? Feeling Lost, Confused, Stuck?
Wandering but never arriving?
Living the life of the Adhd Nomadd?
I’ve been where you are. I’ve spent a large part of my life trying to figure out why I struggled with tasks that other people seemed to find easy. Wondering why my potential felt aspirational rather than achievable. Frustrated that the efforts I put into my endeavours were rarely reflected by the results I achieved.
No-one, and I do mean no-one, ever said to me ‘Tony, you know that could be Adhd right?’ Until the penny finally dropped, quite by accident while I was watching a programme on TV.
So my own journey began. First stop the internet and some research, then to the Doctor with my findings and onto an adult Adhd Clinic for the assessment that finally led to my diagnosis. I stepped out of the clinic into what I now think of as ‘The ADHD Desert’.
Supporting patients to understand and manage their condition is the cornerstone of good healthcare and essential whatever their condition. Unless you have Adhd.
Although medication can help, the adult with a freshly minted Adhd diagnosis is often left almost totally unequipped to begin to understand and manage their own Adhd. Without direction and support they are often unable to begin that work for themselves. They risk becoming Nomadds and the corrosive impacts that Adhd can have in daily impairments, cumulative outcomes and on partners and family members continue.
Understanding that you have Adhd is great but it does nothing to help the Adhd adult begin to understand their unique Adhd brain or the strengths and challenges that it brings. A diagnosis does not in itself begin to equip the Adhd adult to harness their strengths and overcome their challenges in the pursuit of creating a better future and a better sense of self. The diagnosis is often little more than a road sign at the start of a personal journey to cross their own Adhd Desert and setting out to cross any desert is a serious undertaking. For me crossing my Adhd desert successfully led me to training with Addca and becoming an Adhd Coach.
I now coach other Adhd Nomadds on their own journeys across their own Adhd Deserts.
Are you an Adhd Nomadd?
I find it more difficult to function than my peers, it’s frustrating, I want to finally understand why.
My head is a mile ahead of the words I’m saying.
I have to work really hard to focus on things that don’t interest me.
I work twice as hard for twice as long as other people, only to achieve half as much. It hurts.
My brain just isn’t motivated enough to focus on things that I don’t find interesting but it’s hard to tear myself away from the stuff I really like.
I constantly need new stuff - experiences, novelties, gadgets, goals, thrills
Pride and shame deters me from revealing my inner struggles and as a result I feel isolated and alone.
If some of these statements reflect how you feel, you too may be an Adhd Nomadd.
But you are not alone.
To other people it looks like I function well, but there are costs that are hard to explain. Looks are deceptive, I feel a mess.
It doesn’t matter how much I know. I often feel incompetent.
I rely on obsessive behaviours and routines to guarantee organisation and structure.
Imagine Your World Without Barriers. What would be possible?
If you’re smart, perceptive and have Adhd you already have the abilities that define some of our greatest entrepreneurs and leaders. Adhd is absolutely no barrier to success. The difference is the way in which you view yourself relative to the rest of your world. The good news is that by understanding and embracing your Adhd you can redefine yourself, redefine your goals and redefine your future self.
You can create the life you always wanted!
Feeling the Desert Heat?
Tired of Living in the Wilderness?
If you are not where you want to be
If you feel that things are not going as you would like
Or if you feel stuck