Building an Abundance Mindset: ADHD Coaching Insights for Personal Growth

I want to invite you to pause for a moment and consider what abundance really means in the context of everyday life, especially when you’re someone who’s committed to personal growth and self-understanding. Not the sort of abundance that’s measured in possessions or achievements, but the kind that quietly shapes your experience of each day, and the way you relate to yourself and others.

This reflection was sparked by a recent coaching conversation with Pete, who’s been working with me on routines, boundaries, and the subtle art of not running on empty. 

We found ourselves circling the idea that abundance isn’t about squeezing more in, nor is it about striving for perfection or keeping every plate spinning at once. It’s about making space for what genuinely nourishes you, and having the self-respect to protect that space, even when the world seems to demand more.

Pete put it rather neatly: “Thinking about and actively protecting my needs equals abundance.” It sounds simple, but it’s a real shift from the old habit of pushing to the limit and then paying the price later. We joked about “emotional credit card debt”—that feeling when you say yes to everything and end up exhausted, only to find the interest on that debt is steeper than you expected. 

The real trick, we agreed, is to leave a little in the tank. That 80% rule—doing just enough, not everything—means you’re far more likely to keep going, enjoy what you’re doing, and bounce back if things go awry.

There’s something quietly radical about choosing to do less, and trusting that it will lead to more: more energy, more consistency, more satisfaction. It’s a bit like tending a garden. You don’t need to plant every seed in the packet, nor do you need to water the plants until they drown. The real magic happens when you give things just enough of what they need, and trust the process.

We also talked about boundaries, not just with work but with social commitments and even with our own expectations. Swapping “should” for “could” in your self-talk is a tiny tweak that can make a huge difference. Suddenly, you’re choosing, not just complying. That’s abundance in action. It’s about autonomy, about moving from obligation to choice, and about recognising that your needs are not just valid but essential.

Abundance, then, is a practice. It’s about planning ahead, checking in with yourself, and respecting what you know works for you—even if it means leaving the party early or skipping the second half of a bad play. It’s about filling your emotional cup with the things and people that truly restore you, and not feeling guilty for saying no to what drains you. It’s an act of self-respect, not self-indulgence.

One of the things Pete noticed was how easy it is to overlook the cost of overcommitting, especially when it comes to social energy. There’s a tendency to think, “I can do this, so I should,” but that way lies trouble. The reality is that energy is a finite resource, and spending too much in one area inevitably means there’s less to go around elsewhere. There’s no separate pot for work, socialising, and self-care—it’s all drawn from the same well.

We touched on the idea of “filling the cup”—making sure you’re topping up your reserves in ways that are meaningful and restorative for you. For Pete, this means time with the right people, engaging in activities that bring genuine joy, and being mindful of the difference between what’s nourishing and what’s simply draining. It’s about noticing when the cup is running low, and taking steps to refill it before you hit empty.

This is where the style of ‘Becoming’ comes in—treating yourself as an equal partner in your own life, giving your needs the same weight and consideration as you would for anyone else you care about. It’s about equity, about having a seat at the table, and about recognising that you are just as deserving of nourishment and care as anyone else. Sometimes that means saying no, sometimes it means changing plans, and sometimes it means sitting quietly with a cup of tea and letting the world spin on without you for a while.

There’s a certain clarity that comes from this approach. It’s not about chasing after every opportunity or trying to be everything to everyone. It’s about making conscious choices, about knowing your limits, and about trusting that you’re enough, just as you are. Abundance, in this sense, is less about accumulation and more about discernment—about knowing what to let in, and what to gently decline.

If any of this strikes a chord, perhaps take a moment to ask yourself: What fills your cup? Where are you spending energy you can’t easily replace? What would it look like to do just a little less, so you can have a little more? What boundaries could you set, not as walls but as gentle reminders of your own worth?

You’re worth it. And that’s not just a slogan from a shampoo advert. It’s a quiet truth, one that’s easy to overlook but transformative when you really take it to heart.

So, as you move through the week ahead, I invite you to consider what abundance means for you. Not as a distant goal, but as a daily practice—a way of relating to yourself with kindness, respect, and a little bit of gentle curiosity. You might be surprised by how much more there is to enjoy, once you stop trying to do it all.

Want to discover what abundance could look like in your life? Book a call and let’s discuss how you can move from ‘should’ to ‘could’ and reclaim your energy.