I want to invite you to pause for a moment and consider what abundance really means in the context of everyday life, especially when you’re someone who’s committed to personal growth and self-understanding. Not the sort of abundance that’s measured in possessions or achievements, but the kind that quietly shapes your experience of each day, and the way you relate to yourself and others.

Have you ever caught yourself dodging an awkward conversation, putting off a bit of life admin or letting a nagging worry simmer quietly in the background, simply because it felt easier not to face it? If so, you might be carrying what was recently described as “emotional credit card debt”. It’s a phrase that struck a chord with me, and I suspect it will with you too.

Have you ever had that odd sensation where something you knew perfectly well yesterday has vanished into thin air today? It’s as if your brain has decided to play a game of hide and seek, but forgotten to tell you the rules. Welcome to the world of ‘wisdom fade’-something that can feel like a particularly cruel trick if you have ADHD.

If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably spent a fair chunk of your life wondering why some days you can take on the world, and other days you can’t even take on the washing up. This isn’t just the stuff of motivational memes or the latest productivity hack-it’s the lived reality of executive functioning variability, especially for those of us with ADHD

'Cognitive masturbation' might sound a little cheeky, but it’s a surprisingly apt metaphor for a certain kind of mental habit many people—especially those with ADHD—will recognise. 

ADHD can profoundly shape the dynamics of adult relationships, creating challenges that often feel overwhelming but are far from insurmountable. Traits like impulsivity, emotional reactivity, and difficulties with attention can lead to misunderstandings, strained communication, and a sense of disconnection between partners.

Before I started coaching the biggest challenge in my mind was not being able to understand why everything seemed so simple for everyone else. It seemed quite hard for me.

Before coaching with Tony I didn't fully understand the different elements of ADHD and how much it was impacting my life … Tony’s coaching sessions feel really relaxed. That helped me to feel comfortable and safe.

As professionals, we all strive for success and growth in our careers. However, adults with ADHD often face unique challenges in the workplace that can hinder their progress. This is where ADHD business coaching comes in. This specialised form of coaching is designed to help individuals with ADHD unlock their full potential and accelerate their professional growth.

Executive functions are the brain's management system. They are a set of cognitive processes that enable us to plan, focus attention, remember instructions, and juggle multiple tasks successfully. Understanding executive functioning is crucial for anyone navigating the ADHD landscape, as it forms the foundation of many of the difficulties experienced by those with ADHD.

For those with ADHD, the struggle between embracing change and clinging to familiarity can be particularly intense. Our nervous systems, crave the comfort of routine and predictability even when we intellectually recognize the need for growth and transformation.

Let's get straight to it - the notion that ADHD presents fundamentally differently between genders is flawed. While there are some variations in how symptoms manifest, polarising the disorder around gender oversimplifies its complexity and does more harm than good.

The ADHD brain possesses a remarkable ability to think creatively and see possibilities that others miss. It's like having a radar that can scan far into the future and perceive a wide context around any given situation. The ADHD creative mind can connect seemingly disparate ideas and envision innovative solutions. It sees a project's original scope, but also recognizes opportunities to expand and enhance it in ways that surpass initial expectations.

Living with ADHD can be a rollercoaster that leads to frustration and self-doubt. Let's look at why self-compassion is so crucial for adults with ADHD.

ADHD coaching is a unique and highly specialised form of coaching designed to support individuals with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). An ADHD coach is a trained professional who collaborates with clients to help them better understand their ADHD, develop strategies for managing its challenges, and harness their strengths to achieve their personal and professional goals.

One of the most important aspects of managing ADHD is developing greater self-awareness about where we may hit challenges and what we need to do to support ourselves.

This can be a substantial ADHD challenge in itself since it requires - foresight, planning, organisation and probably most importantly of all and often overlooked - permission from ourselves to make our own lives easier.

The love, trust and companionship of my dogs has been a constant in my life for 25 years and I wanted to share some key learnings that I think are very relevant to the ADHD experience.

Emotional expression requires trust and things start to get complicated when we anticipate the responses of other people. Of course, we want to be honest and kind yet unambiguous and usually day-to-day this isn’t too much of a problem. But it can really become a problem if one of two things happens. Or much worse both.

The first of those things is responding to the response instead of the stimulus. The second ‘thing’ is when this plays out with, or includes, big and important values and emotions. Like trust, loyalty, anger, shame, guilt, respect, honour, love etc.. In these situations responding to the response can quickly become supercharged, toxic and destructive. Personal boundaries are going to be seriously challenged.

I was helping a client to explore her need for a filtering system to prioritise her demands, without this the ADHD brain is frustrated by executive challenges.

We hate structure but we need it to function as it has a close relationship with the concept of control. We need to feel we have control.

I’ve had an interesting conversation about stress and burnout recently. Burnout and tiredness often go together and this can impact cognitive functioning.