ADHD Coaching Blog
Hey,
Welcome to my blog. I hope you discover new insights into your own ADHD and that they help you move forward on your journey.
Warmly, Tony
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ADHD and People Pleasing: Why It Happens and How To Set Boundaries
People-pleasing is the familiar pattern of putting the wants of others ahead of your own, so often that it becomes automatic. For adults with ADHD, this tendency can be particularly strong and sometimes it flies under the radar, passing for politeness or thoughtfulness. But really, it is about much more than just getting along.
Designing a Life That Fits Your Wiring
Part IV is about what happens next.
Not a complete life overhaul. Not a new set of rules. Not the creation of another elaborate system that works perfectly for three days before becoming something to feel guilty about.
It is about using the information you have gathered to make your life fit you a little better.
When Patterns Become Visible
Part III of this series brings ADHD and high sensitivity down into real stories at home and in relationships, so you can recognise your own patterns and feel less ‘too much’.
Mapping the Patterns, Not Just the Labels
For some people, there is a “different kind of too much” in their emotional and sensory life that ADHD does not fully capture. High sensitivity, or HSP, offers one way of understanding that second layer of wiring.
ADHD and Being Highly Sensitive (HSP): A Different Kind of Too Much
For some people, ADHD makes sense, but not quite enough sense. They may still feel that part of their emotional and sensory life remains unexplained. This is where the framework of the Highly Sensitive Person can be useful.
Part 4: Practical Agreements With Yourself
In the final part of my self‑relationship series for ADHD and other neurocomplex adults, we translate the ideas from earlier parts into five small, practical agreements you can actually test in daily life, plus three orienting questions for difficult moments, so your inner relationship becomes a little kinder and a lot more workable.
Part 3: What a Healthier Self‑Relationship Can Look Like
In Part 3 of my self‑relationship series for ADHD and other neurocomplex adults, we sketch what a healthier inner relationship can actually look like: basic fairness, compassionate accountability, flexible agreements, repair and relational integrity, so you have a concrete picture of what you are moving toward.
Part 2: How ADHD Erodes Your Self‑Relationship
This second part of my self‑relationship series maps how ADHD traits, time blindness, emotional intensity, masking and old family dynamics quietly erode self‑compassion and self‑trust, so you can see patterns instead of just personal failure.
Part 1: Self‑Relationship for ADHD Brains: When Your Inner Voice Will Not Let Up
ADHD can turn every missed task into a private trial. This article explores self‑relationship, self compassion, masking and shame for late‑diagnosed ADHD professionals, and why being on your own side matters more than ever.
How to find your why when life feels misaligned
Feeling off even though life looks fine. This article explores what it means when your why stops fitting, how misalignment shows up, and how finding your why can bring your life back into alignment.
Defining Enough: Walking The ADHD Tightrope Between Being Too Much And Not Being Enough
Always swinging between feeling ‘too much’ and ‘never enough’ with ADHD? This article helps you name the pattern, understand where it comes from, and start defining what ‘enough’ means for you.
Independence and connection
If you look back through your life, you may see a repeating theme. These refuges are not indulgences. They are often lifelines. They allow the nervous system to settle. They create a sense of wholeness and self connection that is not dependent on anyone else. For some ADHD adults, this refuge is such a central need that living alone feels like the only way to breathe freely.
ADHD & Agency: How Autonomy Sensitivity Shapes Our Lives
Have you ever felt your hackles rise when someone tells you what to do, or perhaps sensed a dull ache when your decisions are questioned? That gentle friction, so familiar to many, is the essence of autonomy sensitivity.
Navigating Attachment: Understanding Connections for ADHD Relationships
Attachment shapes the way people connect, communicate, and care, yet so often, it operates just below conscious awareness. For adults with ADHD, attachment patterns can feel even more complex, influencing both close relationships and self-acceptance.
More Than Nutrition: An ADHD Client’s Story of Food, Insight and Change
Food. It is never just what is on the plate, is it? Every meal for those of us with ADHD is loaded with intention, memory and mood. This is the account of how Ben came to see food not as a constant adversary, but as a companion on his journey to self-understanding.
ADHD and Alternative Relationships
The intersection between neurodiversity and alternative relationship styles is far more common than you might expect. Countless adults with ADHD find themselves drawn towards polyamory, open relationships, and kink-focused communities, intrigued by the possibilities these models hold
Unplugged and Recharged
Frustratingly, for months, I have been finding it increasingly more difficult to get into ‘the zone’. The reason was what I call fluff. Fluff is the little bits that just clog up the machinery and get in the way of actually, properly getting stuff done.
Building an Abundance Mindset: ADHD Coaching Insights for Personal Growth
I want to invite you to pause for a moment and consider what abundance really means in the context of everyday life, especially when you’re someone who’s committed to personal growth and self-understanding. Not the sort of abundance that’s measured in possessions or achievements, but the kind that quietly shapes your experience of each day, and the way you relate to yourself and others.
When Wisdom Fades: Why We Forget What We’ve Learned (and What to Do About It)
Have you ever had that odd sensation where something you knew perfectly well yesterday has vanished into thin air today? It’s as if your brain has decided to play a game of hide and seek, but forgotten to tell you the rules. Welcome to the world of ‘wisdom fade’-something that can feel like a particularly cruel trick if you have ADHD.